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lostmyway

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where i am right now
« on: August 13, 2013, 04:51:00 PM »
hi,

I lost my job about 4 months ago.  I was on a final warning and it lasted over a year, then they renewed the warning for another year, which really annoyed me and thought it was very unfair.  it lasted til april of this year and i got sacked.  I have had 2 interviews in over 4 months, and its like bashing my head against a brick wall. I have been wanting to move to another field but this is proving fruitless.

I am 42 and live at home, and don't seem to be able to make the break that i truly need to make. Most people i know have moved away from the area and have married etc and gotten on with their lives but i have never really managed it for one reason or another.  I am about to take on a course with the OU and dont really know if its the right thing to do now at my age, coupled with the lack of exp. i have in the field i want to work in.  My brother went to the states years ago, and my dad passed in 2005.  Nothing ever seems to move on or progress, i just seem to meander from one thing to another.

Since losing my job it seems i dont see anybody during the week or weekend , and is adding to my anxiety and dark moods.  They seem controlled , but since losing my job it has got alot worse.

I don't know what else to do, i dont have the motivation or the energy to do anything.  I want to get myself moving but dont seem to be able to.  Feel so alone, and lost with myself.
It never seems to alter....

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Re: where i am right now
« Reply #1 on: August 13, 2013, 08:18:49 PM »
 :welcome:

It's worth you doing the OU course and you're not too old to do it.  Look at this way you still have 23 years before retirement age.  I appreciate it's not easy to get motivated ~ I've been there ~ but if you can get enough motivation to start a course it may help.

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Re: where i am right now
« Reply #2 on: August 13, 2013, 09:43:34 PM »
Hi Pip

thanks for the advice.  The OU course is something i need to do and will help confidence levels, and help kickstart a new career.  Here's hoping.

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Re: where i am right now
« Reply #3 on: August 14, 2013, 12:07:45 AM »
whats the new career your interested in?

id like to be a dog trainer in an ideal world. I used to want to be a psychologist but the road is too long for that one. I prefer dogs to people.

hope your doing ok right now!
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Re: where i am right now
« Reply #4 on: August 30, 2013, 01:52:04 PM »
the course i am about to do is the dipHE in computing and it. its not cheap but i dont have to pay it back all in one go.

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Re: where i am right now
« Reply #5 on: August 30, 2013, 02:02:28 PM »
well that's something positive! great news, theres something to work towards and keep you motivated! it will pay for itself in time once you have the diploma/certification/degree whatever it may be.

Glad to hear your moving forward with changing career! gives me food for thought in doing some kind of course eventually.... have to get a job to pay for it first but im not ready yet... small steps an all that :)
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Re: where i am right now
« Reply #6 on: August 30, 2013, 02:27:32 PM »
Great news and it's something positive for you to do  :happy0158: